ego is the enemy x ravnelite
Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday
RavnElite Rating: 9/10
Warning: This one punches you in the pride, in the best way possible.
This book rocked me. I like to believe I am not at all an egoic person. Ego has always been associated for me with police officers that had a shit attitude, Napoleon complex short kings, fighter pilots (this is no longer the case after getting out), operators and the Suits that flaunt expensive watches and cars. I was wrong. My perception of EGO was not at all what I thought it actually was. Take this as a wake up call…we all have ego. We may just not be that person seeking validation by being loud and the center of attention….but we all have it.
Your ego isn’t just some loud, arrogant voice in a room….it’s a voice on your shoulder that whispers lies in your ear.
“You’re the shit.”
“You don’t need help.”
“Your’e a man, you don’t need help”
“You already know enough.”
“You should’ve made it by now.”
Stop.
Ryan Holiday exposes that voice and shows you how ego kills growth, blocks wisdom, and poisons progress. Whether you’re grinding at the bottom or winning at the top. It doesn’t matter if you’re building an empire or rebuilding yourself after a loss… ego doesn’t discriminate. It just distracts, inflates, and blinds.
This book is stoic wisdom in combat boots.
It teaches you how to…
Get over your own hype. (Just because you’re that guy, doesn’t mean you have to flaunt it)
Stay humble while leveling up
Build mastery instead of chasing applause
Learn, lead, and last…not just flex with your fake “alpha” voice.
Do you want to perform at an elite level? Then you have to kill that little voice that needs validation, gets triggered by critique, and panics when the spotlight isn’t on them.
Bottom line:
This book doesn’t stroke your ego, it shatters it.
This is exactly what will make you an elite performer.
Read it, then move in silence. Let your results make the noise.
“Never assume that loud is strong and quiet is weak. The fiercest storms rise from the calmest seas” - Tommy Shelby
the let them theory x ravnelite
The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins ravnElite 8.5/10
Audience: Anyone who is tired of wasting energy on bullshit they can’t control.
Here’s the truth, people are going to do whatever the fuck they want. Your girl? Your man? Your friends? Your coworkers? Your family members? They’re not yours to manage, fix, or “guide.” You trying to force shit only creates more resistance, is return it robs you of your peace and power when you’re disappointed in the outcome,
Mel Robbins dropped a no non sense mindset shift with The Let Them Theory…
Let them.
Let them leave.
Let them talk.
Let them doubt you.
Let them ghost.
Let them underestimate you.
Let them say you’ve changed. (Good — you fucking should, and you can!)
Then the switch to Let Me.
Let me watch them walk away.
Let me not listen to the nonsense they’re spewing.
Let me prove people wrong.
Let me win.
Let me succeed.
This isn’t about being passive, it’s about empowering yourself. You can stop chasing validation. You can stop trying to prove your worth. Stay locked in on your goals, your mission, your mind. If someone’s actions are loud …listen…but don’t beg or expect a certain outcome. You let them, and then you let “me” not allow it to bother you.
Mel makes it simple, actionable, and punchy. No fluff. Just permission to stop controlling shit that’s not your job. Especially powerful if you’ve been caught up in drama, people-pleasing, or fighting fictional demons in your head.
The bottom line, read this book if you’re ready to stop giving energy away to people who don’t deserve front row seats in your show called life with directors rights.
It’s not soft. It’s not “woo woo.” It’s tactical detachment (healthy detachment), and it’s a powerful weapon.
Let them. Then let “me” go fucking win.